Let’s get married.
#NuttyNovember 4
What is it like having a partner in life?
I have thought a lot to understand and explain marriage or the idea of a partner in life. Never got it completely. And always struggled to put it in words whatever I understood. But let’s take a shot.
Let us pick the metaphor of cricket. Surprisingly, that sport has taught me most about relationship.
Our characters are the two batsmen. They are on either side of the 22 yard pitch. Both are batting. Both are scoring their individual runs. Both are in their own individual journeys. But the partnership score is also building up. The team score is also building up.
Two individual journeys it seems. But somehow, they are building a partnership. They are journeying together! Seperate and together at the same time. Two individuals. One partnerships.
The Joy of Being There
One is batting and the other is watching from the other end. Like in life it should be. It is a joy just watching another individual batting, from the other end.
Both have their own ways of batting - one can be aggressive and the other can be defensive. They can do it their own way.
After every other ball or over they come in the middle of the pitch and chat. How was it? How can I do it better? How is the ball coming and pitching? Should we tweak something?
But when you explore cricket stories more, you realise, many a times they were cracking a joke in the middle. Or humming a song and just standing together just in the middle. Then they go again to their own ends to continue the batting.
That moment of coming together in life in the middle, just to be together amidst the individual journeys.
Running for the Other
Now there are some places you have to score together. The batsmen have to run between the wickets. Both run, one gets the score in their name. There are places where you trust the other batsman blindly and just do it.
“Run!” You don’t look back where the ball went. You trust and you run! Runs you score together!
What a beautiful game of partnership. Then you come again in the middle.
“I am tried”
“It’s fine. Rotate. I will take strike.”
“Cool”
“Oh look! There’s that red guy again in the crowd with your poster”
And both laugh out.
There is a joy of being you. There is joy of doing together. There is joy of seeing the other. There is joy being with the other. There is joy of standing together. Both just want one thing - to build the partnership!
The more you can think over it, the better it gets. It tells about the 22 yards you should leave between both of you at times, so that you can be you. It tells about the smiles you should give from the other end, so that it can just bring up the spirits on the other end. It tells about watching the other’s journey and overjoying over it as if it is your own journey.
As they say, partnerships win the game!
Sweet Nuts for today! Go Nuts.